“Why do you allow your husband to cheat on you?” One of my EX’s younger mistresses threw me this question when I was talking with her over the phone in preparation for her application to Haven, the National Center for Women in Alabang, Muntinlupa. I swear I could have jumped on her and wring her neck if we were talking face to face. With gritted teeth I told her “sino ba namang babae ang papayag na mangaliwa ang asawa nya? Eh ikaw. Bakit ka pumapatol sa may asawa? Kung walang babaeng papatol sa may asawa, walang lalakeng mangangaliwa.” (No wife would want her husband to cheat on her. How about you? Why would you have sex with a married man? If no woman would fall for a married man then no husband would cheat on his wife.”) I continued saying “honestly, I would love to crucify you and your lover but doing so will harm the baby in your womb. I don’t want that to happen. Also, I will suffer in jail if I commit this heinous crime. Why would I waste my precious life for people like you?”
During the course of our conversation I learned that she was molested by her uncle when she was 15 so I related her story to the social worker who took my call. Haven only accepted women who were abused so her case was included for consideration. We were then scheduled for the interview.
At the interview, I explained to the social worker that one of my staff was impregnated by her boyfriend. I was responsible for her well-being since she’s living in the lodging quarters for our workers. The interviewer asked if marriage between my staff and her boyfriend was possible. With my EX beside me and Gio sitting on his lap (I was then 5 months pregnant with Eia), I answered him that marriage would be impossible because my staff’s boyfriend was already married. With that revelation, the social worker handed me the application and I filled it up.
After 3 weeks, the time has come for me to bring my EX’s girlfriend to Haven. I called her up to be ready for departure. She bluntly told me that she changed her mind. She won’t be entering Haven anymore. I asked her why and she blurted out that she’s just gonna be bored there. I described to her that Haven is a heavenly place and there are lots of activities one can do inside the premises like gardening, sewing, handicrafts, cooking and baking. She still said NO, and that was the last time I talked with her. She vanished after that. Her friends told me that she eloped with her “legal” boyfriend.
Wherever she is now, I pray that she has learned from her past mistake and is now living decently. I wish her joy and happiness.
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